I'm a Pessimist, But I Don't Want To Be

I'm a pessimist.

It's plagued me my entire life.

I've always thought, "I'm just never going to look at the world in a positive light. I'm always going to be negative and assume the worst."

I'm sure it's contributed to my (at times) crippling anxiety and (at times) depression.

I've been listening to podcasts about the studies on optimism and pessimism and it's been nothing short of eye-opening and inspiring.

They are learning that while it can be an inherited outlook, you can actually train yourself to be more optimistic.

The Happiness Lab has an interview with psychologist Marty Seligman (a self-proclaimed pessimist) on his studies on what makes people happy. He's quite literally changed his thinking to be optimistic.

Why am I writing this? I'm writing this because I know I'm not the only one who suffers from a debilitating mindset that affects everyone around you, including your family. I know that I'm not the only one who wishes that everything hard that happens isn't "the end of the world" or "worst thing ever".

I know I'm not the only one who has cried actual tears over the way their brain works, but hasn't wanted to know the actual answer of if it can be fixed because what if the answer is, "This is just who you are"?

I'm finding that it doesn't have to be. I can nurture the things that are good in my life and the strengths that I posses, instead of nurturing what brings me pain.

The first photo of me pregnant shows what motherhood has felt like for the most part.

The second photo is how I long to feel most days.

I'm going to nurture the good in my life so that I can be more of the woman in that second photograph. I deserve it.

Preserving a Fisher Island Family's Legacy Through Photographs

Preserving a Fisher Island Family's Legacy Through Photographs

What do you want the world to remember about you? What do you want your children to remember about you as a parent? How do you want your spouse to feel thirty years from now? How will you preserve those memories that you cherish and spent years making?

This is why I work very closely with my custom printer, framer, and album artisan. Preserving my client’s legacy by print is as equally important as photographing them.

Don’t let your legacy die on a hard drive.

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The Process of Working Together

The Process of Working Together

I will guide you through the entire process and will anticipate your needs before you might even realize them. It’s my pleasure to create custom art for my clients, based on their individuality.

What I love most about these sessions is the experience. We will create gorgeous photographs and you will have one of the most enjoyable experiences of your life.

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It's Not What You Really Want

It's Not What You Really Want

Could I answer one email, show up and photograph you beautifully, and hand you digitals? Yes. So why do I have an entire process that takes weeks leading up to our session together? Why does it feel like I’m complicating something that could be so quick and easy?

Because quick and easy isn’t what you really want.

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How Do I Find You

How Do I Find You

In a world where people just want the smallest, simplest piece of you, how do you show them that you need each other?

So much of owning a small business is meeting the people who will “get” what you do and want to be a part of it. If you’re doing it right, it’s not even a huge number of people, just enough that trust your vision and want it for themselves. But, when you have one minute to listen to their story and one minute to tell yours, how do you connect?

I’m so tired of the small talk, “I’m a life coach, oh, you’re a photographer? I need some new headshots.”

We know you do so much more than just coach people. Do you know that I do so much more than take a few photos of people?

How do we get there? How do we find meaning in these short conversations?

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